Parenting – Suggested Reading
HOW TO TURN THINGS ON THEIR HEADS? TALKING ABOUT EXECUTIVE FUNCTION
TEDx Talk with Adele Diamond, a neoropsychologist about Executive Function. Ooops, I just uttered the scary word: Executive Function. What are we referring to? Executive Function are those abilities for:
- Self Control (Can I resist an impulse, wait before I speak);
- Discipline and perseverance (can I overcome the urge to quit);
- Creativity (Can I see the connection between ideas)
- Working memory (Can I hold information and find reasoning);
- Conceive Ideas to resolve issues, and problem solving;
- Mental Flexibility (Can I navigate an unforeseen obstacle or changes).
These abilities are indicators of our cognitive control functions. Dr. Adele Diamond claims in her research that our job as parents is to help our children develop good and healthy executive function. She says frankly that we can be magnificent parents, although we are not perfect parents. “Your humanity is more important than your knowledge of skills.” How?
- Instill in your child the confidence that he can succeed. Trust him to do it on his own, and he will. Your listening and caring for the child is more important. One of the major sources of stress for children, claims Adele, is the feeling that they are not smart enough, or the message that they will not be successful.
- When a toddler tries to walk and falls, we never say: “You got a D in Walking today.” Instead we say – Don’t worry, we can get this done, and we will do it together. It is important to communicate that each child will succeed.
- Children learn more through story telling, dance, art, sport and games. These activities reduce stress and help a child who finds work to be boring, to complete a task. It teaches them persistence.
See the full presentation on You Tube.